As I’ve mentioned before, I looooove planning. I love spreadsheets and checklists and charts and color-coded schedules . . . and I love ignoring them after they’re made. I was once called “the least type A type A person ever” and thought that was a pretty accurate description. What can I say–I like to convince myself I have my life in order, especially when it comes to homeschooling! Except, of course, that I really prefer to wing it most of the time. My firstborn and I spent a great deal of time butting heads during our early homeschooling years, largely because I made the mistake of creating detailed lesson plans and setting goals of what we needed to have done during each week (or month, or quarter). Learning to let go of my own unrealistic expectations and embrace what actually works for us was probably the most vital lesson in our homeschool journey. Even if I love planning, we are all better off if those plans stay loosey-goosey so that when something comes up, I can shift things around without stressing.
This is particularly apt right now, when I’m mapping out lesson numbers for the coming weeks. They look so pretty in a table on Google Docs, all evenly spaced and labeled and nicely organized. We go on vacation the first week of September most years so I wanted to jot down lesson numbers for the week after the trip, to keep myself from having to figure it all out at the last minute after a week away. Then yesterday my children asked if they could each pick one subject to skip during schoolwork. I agreed because look, I need as many un-ironic “Mom of the Year” moments as I can get, okay? They’ve finally realized other kids get ACTUAL summer break and if letting them each skip one tiny chunk of schoolwork makes them feel like I’m a benevolent ruler instead of an evil hag, I’m going with it.
What it led to, however, was a discussion about whether they should have weekly goals with the freedom to choose which subjects they wanted each day, as long as it all got done by the end of the week. I’m not positive this will work for us–I can definitely see my 6th grader deciding to save all of her math lessons for Friday, because those take her the longest, and then we’d be all burnt out at the end of the week while she has 75 hours’ worth of math problems to do. So it will need SOME guidelines (especially as far as math goes), like maybe certain subjects will require a certain number of days per week instead of just getting through the specific lessons whenever they want . . . but hey, it gave me the opportunity to create YET ANOTHER weekly checklist to fill in!
I’m starting to wonder if my children know me so well that they actually orchestrated this because they thought I’d be in a good mood if I had new checklists to work on. Am I being played? Hmm. It’s entirely possible, but since I have such a pretty new table to work on, I don’t really care!